We Asked 12 Dads What They Want for Father's Day and None of Them Said a Mug

Every June, stores roll out the same lineup of gadgets, ties, and quirky mugs for Father’s Day. But Dad deserves more. We spoke with 12 senior fathers and reviewed survey data to understand what truly makes them feel seen, and the results may surprise you.

Quality Time Ranks Higher Than Physical Gifts

A recent YouGov survey found that 58% of American dads prefer spending time with their kids on Father’s Day. Their answers show a clear trend: simple, meaningful moments matter more than flashy gifts.

One dad we interviewed, a retired firefighter in Georgia, told us, “I’d take grilling with my grandkids over another pair of socks any day.” For families planning to stay in, even small upgrades like faster and more reliable home internet can make a difference, whether it’s for video calls, movie nights, or sharing photos. Simple experiences at home like a shared meal or family game night also consistently top the list of what dads really value.

Dad Wants Space and Autonomy, Too

While connection is important, many dads said they also appreciate personal downtime. A retired engineer dad in Pennsylvania said, “Let me control the remote for once. That’s all I ask.”

The data backs this up. Around 24% of fathers want time to watch their own choice of television, while 20% simply want a quiet day to themselves. Notably, 18% said they want to spend the day doing nothing in particular.

For some, that calm begins with peace of mind at home — knowing the home is secure, protected, and one less thing to worry about.

Experience Over Objects

Gift cards, a shared meal out, or tickets to a local event came up repeatedly in our conversations. A retired Air Force veteran explained, “Take me to a jazz show or fishing trip. I don’t need anything else.” This resonates with national trends. The YouGov data showed that while fewer dads prioritized physical gifts, nearly 40% listed experiences (such as a meal or outing) as their ideal way to spend the day. Many are also finding ways to save on experiences that bring joy without breaking the budget.

Practical Wins Over Sentimental

Many of the dads we spoke with admitted they’re not fans of sentimental trinkets. One widower said, “I love my kids, but I have enough handprint art to wallpaper the garage.”

A 2023 UK survey confirmed that mugs, ties, and slogan T-shirts often land on dads’ “worst gift” lists. And the American data reflects this too; gimmicky items and novelty gifts ranked lowest in appeal. Instead, practical and versatile options like gift cards, hobby gear, or tools tend to get better reactions. If it’s useful, it’s appreciated.

Cost Isn’t the Point

Ipsos research shows that almost half of all adults say they don’t spend anything on Father’s Day gifts. Among those who do buy gifts, most spend under $50. YouGov found that only 12% of dads expected anything expensive. These spending habits may explain the ongoing popularity of affordable but unexciting gifts like mugs. They also highlight an opportunity. With a bit of planning and expert financial advice, that same budget can fund a better, more personalized experience.

What to Avoid This Year

Based on survey data and personal stories, here are a few items best left off your Father’s Day shopping list:

• Coffee mugs (unless he collects them)
• Slogan T-shirts
• Nose hair trimmers
• Dress shirts he wouldn’t pick himself
• Homemade crafts (unless they come with shared activity time)

Instead, aim for something that sparks joy, reflects effort, or lets Dad relax the way he wants.

Better Physical Gifts (If You Really Want to Give One)

If your dad truly enjoys unwrapping something tangible, there are thoughtful and useful options that go beyond the cliché. Here are a few physical gifts that got nods of approval from the dads we spoke with:

• High-quality grilling tools – Durable and practical, these upgrade dad’s favorite pastime.
• Comfort-focused gear – Think memory foam slippers, ergonomic back cushions, or luxe robes.
• Subscriptions – Monthly coffee deliveries, book clubs, or streaming services tailored to his tastes.
• Hobby-related upgrades – Whether it's golf, woodworking, or photography, a small gear upgrade is often appreciated.
• Multi-tools or smart gadgets – Items like Leathermans or easy-to-use smart speakers hit the sweet spot between tech and utility.

These gifts still lean into the values of usefulness, personalization, and enjoyment without falling back on novelty or clutter.

The Real Father’s Day Wish List

If you’re wondering what dads want for Father's Day, the answer is simpler than the gift guides make it seem. Most want quality time, thoughtful experiences, and a little space to enjoy themselves. A mug cannot deliver that feeling. A family BBQ or a peaceful Sunday afternoon, however, can.

Before you shop, ask Dad what he really wants. Chances are, he already has a drawer full of socks and mugs. What he might not have is an afternoon where he gets to be fully seen, heard, and appreciated.

Let Father’s Day be less about the packaging and more about presence. For most dads, that’s the memory that lasts far longer than any gift.